“Some will read “queer” as synonymous with “gay and lesbian” or “LGBT.” This reading falls short. While those who would fit within the constructions of “L”, “G”, “B”, or “T” could fall within the discursive limits of queer, queer is not a stable area to inhabit. Queer is not merely another identity that can be tacked onto a list of neat social categories, nor the quantitative sum of our identities. Rather, it is the qualitative position of opposition to presentations of stability—an identity that problematizes the manageable limits of identity. Queer is a territory of tension, defined against the dominant narrative of white-hetero-monogamous-patriarchy, but also by an affinity with all who are marginalized, otherized, and oppressed. Queer is the abnormal, the strange, the dangerous. Queer involves our sexuality and our gender, but so much more. It is our desire and fantasies and more still. Queer is the cohesion of everything in conflict with the heterosexual capitalist world. Queer is a total rejection of the regime of the Normal.”—
but is bisexuality something with construction? for some reason I doubt this, since most of the public does not believe in the existence of bisexuality at all, considers it a faze as well as something that can not be understood. from what I know (and that is very limited) the gay and lesbian communities are strong and well defined, and from my own experience there seems to be a rather strong community for those who consider themselves queer. but bi? I see no massive movements for this section of the LGBT. I know of no strong communities for those who consider themselves bisexual. I understand that queer also bends the rules of gender along with sexuality, and that is what leads to this quote, it is outside the definitions of what male and female is. but with that being said, I find bisexuality to be more of a challenge to the norm than the queer community - because with my own experience bisexuality has come down to the individual, not the community, and quotes like this simply don’t exist for it. I guess I just always hear people discussing queerness but almost never bisexuality, so then I start to wonder who the real outsiders are.
“She sent for one of those squat, plump little cakes called “petites madeleines,” which look as though they had been moulded in the fluted valve of a scallop shell. And soon, mechanically, dispirited after a dreary day with the prospect of a depressing morrow, I raised to my lips a spoonful of the…
tsarevich said: you still HAVE the wedding tho. let them have their dislike? why can ppl talk about why they’re excited but not about why they’re not? i see plenty of criticism of things i love on my dash, idg what’s wrong w/hearing both sides & letting both vent.
this is my reasoning, you don’t have to agree with me, but this is often how I see it.
I am not a fan of empty negativity. I am all for discussions of certain cultural events, why they are positive, why they are negative. here is an example - I couldn’t give a single fuck about Harry Potter, and most people I follow are obsessed with it. however, when the last movie comes out I won’t feel any need to say I don’t care about the movie or the books. because, honestly, what’s the point? sure, people are allowed to say how much they don’t love Harry Potter, free speech and all that, but it doesn’t really have a reason behind it, or an effect in any way.
people have a reason for loving things and celebrating them, people also have a reason for debating about things they dislike, because there is reasoning behind it - they might object to the messages the movie, book or cultural event represents, there might be something worth debating. but if people feel indifferent, and “don’t care” about something, why feel the need to publish it all over their blog, to write about it on facebook?
when someone feels the need to express their indifference I can’t help but view it as hypocritical. if one really feels indifferent to something then they shouldn’t feel the need to talk about it at all, actually, they should be able to continue on with their lives without mention of it.
I am sure plenty of people out there have real reasoning behind their objection to the attention this wedding had, but few people actually took the time to express those reasons. I also noticed a lot of these people who objected to the wedding also obsess about things I find equally if not more frivolous, following fandoms for movies and books and tv etc.
I chalk that up to immaturity, or, these characters and stories they love have some real deep meaning to them and their identity - if that be the case, they should actually be able to understand more fully why so many people were excited for a real live royal wedding. yet that didn’t seem to be the case.
but what I find most interesting about this entire debate that I have seen on tumblr and facebook etc. is that it is really a product of this new age of technology. we have entered an era where every person feels the need to voice their opinion about every god damn event out there, that suddenly all our personal opinions actually matter and everyone needs to know about them, when actually, we don’t. and yes I realize I put my own opinion out there about the wedding - but it was an opinion I did not see represented anywhere else. and I am honestly fascinated by this kind of technological debate.
and while I was happy about the wedding, let it be said I get equally as annoyed by people who over-obsess as well as those who over-complain. in the end, moderation would be ideal - but in this day and age, I doubt that will ever happen.
andibgoode said: Watching TV or being on Twitter, right now, is like having it shoved in your face. I’ve said one thing about it and that was that, if anyone is live-tweeting it, to let me know so I can stay away from twitter for the duration & that’s what I’m doing.
ah, see, I don’t have a twitter and I don’t watch tv (I watch my shows etc. on the computer) so I am sure that helps a great deal :)
You know what? I have heard more people go on and on about how much they don't care about the Royal Wedding than people who have talked about how much they do.
and it is just as obnoxious. especially for those of you who get more excited about movies and television shows, and certain movie stars. how is this any different?
I understand the hype can be annoying, and you aren’t obligated to care, but really, I am so sick of negativity and cynicism, is that attitude really still in style?
I am not a fan of certain movies or fandoms people follow on here, but I don’t feel the need to comment on how much I don’t care about the next Harry Potter film, or Lady GaGa video, or Doctor Who episode, or I don’t even know. I might lose followers over this, but I don’t really care, I just think people need to take a step back and evaluate their own hypocrisy.
no one has shoved in my face anything about the Royal Wedding, besides people saying how much they don’t care about it - but if people are excited about something positive for once, let them be! just like you don’t want people telling you certain cultural events you care about are not worth it, let it go and just let the people have their wedding.